Thank you for taking the time read and reply.


Skimming other threads I read something that was so familiar. The gaslighter establishing boundaries and rules, that apply to everyone except for gaslighter. This was something that really got to me. She'd chastise me, "Words have meaning", then later she'd say something incredibly insensitive to me. When I'd ask if she could be more thoughtful with her words, she'd reply that I was sensitive and always "I'm sorry you took it that way". Which isn't an apology, it puts the all responsibility on me. She also would have drastic mood swings during shift that were unpredictable and difficult to work around. It's very interesting reading others experiences and remembering other subtle techniques she'd use.


I decided to write her a letter telling her how she'd made me feel. I didn't expect anything to come from it, but I wanted her to see it. She said she was sorry, but as I assumed would be the case, didn't address anything I'd asked her about and then proceeded to tell me that I've always been like my current state and she wasn't to blame for that. Like I said, I didn't expect even a reply, but it felt good to write it and send it to her.