@MoxiDoxi we all have moments of wanting to backhand people and/or children in the face. I am sorry it was triggering for you. I doubt your T had the insight to even think it may be triggering for you.
My T tells me a lot about his granddaughter to help me understand how I should have been treated and what my little ones need. She is still a baby so there isn’t acting out or bad behaviors that would have gotten me hurt as a kid BUT all the nurture is very triggering. T has learned that sharing about his granddaughter is extremely helpful to my process but it has to be in small doses with him monitoring my reaction very closely.
Please don’t think you are a bad person for wanting to backhand kids that are acting out. Thinking and doing are totally different things.