A snippet (paraphrased and squooshed for the sake of brevity).... The only snippet, really. The rest was mostly me agitated and overwhelmed by too much at once, plus some crying.
Me: When I hear over and over and over about how I’m wrong and unfair and I don’t really understand this stuff, I start to doubt myself. Even when I know what’s reasonable. I’m so used to caving for the sake of peace. So I asked the guy if I was even in the ballpark.... You know what? I AM smart.
T: Yes.
Me: And so far I have a good intuitive sense for what’s fair and reasonable. I have a good head on my shoulders.
T, emphatically: Yes. Yes, you do.
(And some therapist-y stuff about divorce and negotiation and not selling myself short.)
Most of the rest of the session can be summed up as me saying, “This super sucks and I hate it.”
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Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine)
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