My partner and I have been together for 8 months but have known each other for 2 years. The past few weeks though I haven’t been myself with her. Once I get home from work we are happy and then an hour later I have this switch flip out of nowhere where I am angry and annoyed easily towards her. It is set off by the littlest things. I don’t know why because she hasn’t done anything to me to have me behave this way.
I know she sometimes doesn’t give me enough affection like I would want or she’s on her phone too much to where I feel ignored at times but those aren’t anything that’s new in our relationship.

She sat me down a few days ago and told me she’s scared to do anything because she’s afraid I will lash out. She’s afraid to not text me back, be late coming home or going out to do something. I didn’t even realize I had gotten this bad and my heart is broken hearing her say something about me that I was ignorant about. She asked what’s going on with me and I couldn’t even find a valid reason which has me feeling lost. Even the animals in the house have me on edge which isn’t normal. I’ve also been having a lot of depression and anxiety issues lately as well. Maybe it’s because of my new job or my family holding me to higher standards because of this new job. Ive only been with them for 2 months now and it’s the highest level I’ve been at with a ton of responsibilities. But I don’t know. I’ve struggled with anger before but never this bad. But I want it to stop because I don’t want to be this person.