Have you ever tried to set up some sort of your own system of checks on this whole thing? Like, for example, what if you agreed with yourself that every time you feel the compulsion to text or call him, you make yourself wait for , I don't know, say, five minutes? Make it a hard rule. You have to wait five minutes. Then, if you still feel it is a requirement for you to go ahead, I guess you could go ahead. But if, during that five-minute interval, you asked yourself, 'Why do I feel this emergency need to text/call him right now? Is it really an emergency? If so, what exactly is that emergency? Or is this more about me and therefore, not really an emergency need to contact him right at this moment?'

I don't know, I'm just wondering if maybe you sort of force yourself into a few moments of reflection when this urge hits you, that might give you a shot at reducing the number of times you text/call. Just a thought.

Does your therapist or pdoc understand how debilitating this has become for you?

Hang in there. There is help for you . You just have to figure out what that looks like.