mckell, you are not a freak. I don't think therapists need to know about our sexual lives unless it is directly relevant. My T has asked me just a few questions about sex, and they were always directly related to what we were discussing and he had specific reasons for needing to know. And he let me know what those reasons were. At the very least, if a T is going to ask detailed sexual questions, he should tell the client why he needs to know, so he can put to rest any fears he is getting off on the content. I think if a T doesn't have a good reason for needing to know, that is a big red flag. And something lame like "bonding with the client" wouldn't be reason enough for me.

I think if a T is asking questions that make a person uncomfortable, the client's first question should be, "why do you need to know?"