My first husband always dropped the ball and I would swoop in and complete whatever the task was..

I’d try to talk to him about but he immediately would get defensive which just led to more frustration.

So I decided that he would have to learn how to be responsible. So I wrote up a list of things, I split our bills in half, all our money was combined and we were both fine with it , but I was the one to sit down twice a month and write out all the checks.

I also split some of basic House hold chores, I asked him which ones he’d prefer to do.

Anyway lists made. Hanging on the refrigerator. Showing due dates of all bills.

Well it drove me bat shyt crazy to stand back and wonder what he would forget. The first month he was late on 2 credit card bills and had to pay late fees.

Second month he forgot electric !!! We came home to no power.. he was furious of course , I expected it I had been watching our Check book and he had not written a check. I just lite candles and made pb&j for dinner.. he apologized of course, I just nodded ok and went about getting our daughter to bed, well he went first thing in the morning and got it back on ASAP.

Honestly it was harder on me to stress that he was indeed going to drop the ball.

Maybe couples counseling? You need to know you can depend on him. Maybe he just truly forgets or maybe as Liz said possible passive aggressive going on???

My second husband is much more responsible. He had his own business for years so he was use to managing bills. So he’s fine with it all and I’m grateful he doesn’t mind taking over that chore although things are much easier now a days with auto pay everything.

Personally I have a lot of trouble remembering things when my Bipolar is causing problems I set alarms on my phone, I use my calendar full of daily tasks reminders.

Hopefully he will understand how his actions or rather inaction is causing you great difficulty and stress and make steps to change his behavior.

Good luck