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I am not sure if I can be true to myself and remain in this relationship. I'm feeling more unhappy and unfulfilled with my marriage. I don't think I love him. I want things that he is not able to provide and he wants things from me which are becoming more and more difficult for me to provide. I guess I am at a point where I need to decide is an empty marriage tolerable.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Go slow. The answers will come. My T often talks about how people often "wake up" in their 40s and 50s (I'm not sure how old you are) and realize that life can be better and they want more out of life. They don't want to "settle" anymore and have a gnawing dissatisfaction that begs to be heard and dealt with. Maybe it's something about growing older and realizing that you don't have that many years left, so you better make them count. I don't know. But he says it is a common pattern for both men and women.

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Unfortunately I'm not sure if things are better for me. Maybe this is how it is supposed to be.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I'm not sure what you mean, "how it is supposed to be." Who made the rules on how it is supposed to be? Can't you be the one to make your own rules about what your life will be?