You have a limited life time yourself and while you still have time right now to make a life you want for yourself, each time you are focusing on a therapist instead yourself, you are just wasting your own life and your own time. The time goes by fast and you one day you might find yourself in an embittered position where you realise how many chances you were given and how you turned them all down and how it's then all too late to change anything. But that's eventually all up to you.