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I do not know how to start a group or even if the average user is allowed to. I thought it would be cool to have a place where people in their forties could commisterate. I also welcome people who are not in their forties but have experienced stuff when they were, to share. ( I do not want it to be limited to only people in their forties, many people past forty can offer advice and share).
Many of us in our forties are in a unique place in the world. Many times this includes people that have decided to end their marriages, are raising young kids or teens or are still married and have been for a long time, or only a little bit of time.
To me its unique because over the course of our lives we have experienced growing up in a singular way. We were born when the Vietnam War was ending.
We lived through the 80's as children, surviving all the neon and bad hair, awesome music, the Berlin wall, Challenger, Commodore 64, attari and the beginning of the computer. We remember when missing kids first had their pictures on milk cartons. Stranger danger, stop, drop and roll and ABC afterschool specials. Teen movies where everyone started having sex with each other, drinking and getting high. Just say no and the AIDS epidemic.
We had the 90's where the world was angry, female rock and roll took a sharp turn, Ross Perot ran for president when many of us voted for the first time. Nirvana blew up music and then Kurt Cobain's death. Huge patterned sweaters and high waisted jeans. Supermarket sweep was an awesome game show. We were cognizant when Meagan's Law was made and remember the gulf war and feeling like we might actually be a part of an actual wartime draft.
When the 2000's came many of us were new parents or young parents. We remember rushing to the school to pick up our kids on 9/11. We remember the early days of the internet and IRC chat. We remember Brittney Spears' infamous meltdown. Friendster. Myspace. Facebook in the early stages. Youtube when it was the wild west.
I am not saying that being in your forties for all of that makes you super special its just that we aged through all that stuff and can find unique ways to cope through history that was running at breakneck speed.
I think we could support each other as we face midlife crisis's and dating post divorce. Custody of our kids. Marriage after many years. Raising a kids in college while we still have kids in middle or high school. Many people choose to have children later too, so there is a huge swath of people in their forties who are raising elementary school aged kids.
Some people had their careers before marriage so they are getting married now. My husband's BF is getting married for the first time in November- he is 45.
We feel like we are "old" when actually we are not, we do not feel our age and feel like its unfair that we are technically halfway to 80 and still mentally feel like we are 24.
Anyone can share here. Its a place I thought we could offer support and gain insight. Maybe this is a stupid idea so if you think so then let me know.
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President of the no F's given society.
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