@SirHabit of course the arguing doesn’t help. The arguments of course stemming from the lies. He’d feel guilty about lying and so he’d yell at me for expecting him to quit. After he said he wanted to. I just thought he was irritable because he was quitting nicotine. But still- I prefer not to be yelled at or blamed for a choice he made. It’s the back and forth that has frustrated me. I should mention, he would be short on making our rent payments because he spent all his money on nicotine produces. So... again— yes, I’d rather not have an argument. In fact, they always start off with me calmly expressing my concern at our rent being late because he’s spent his money on vape products. Or that his lying to me has made me feel insecure. His response is always to lash out at me. Tell me to keep my feelings to myself. And to mind my own business. Hence- my seemingly rooted anxiety about this.