Maybe it's none of my business, because it isn't me who is being talked to, but I am uncomfortable with people making assumptions about what Sarah seems to think or is looking for .

Having said that, I could probably call myself out for doing something similar -- but I did preface it with my own experience and my own mistakes. Mistakes which therapists did not help me realize but instead, IMO, encouraged.

From my experience, I think it would be great if therapists would tell or explain to people up front what therapy is about, how it works, what to expect, perhaps what relationships are about and how they work, especially if the therapist claims that they are relationally oriented or something similar. Maybe some people can go into a "therapeutic" relationship, or any other, without needing that kind of support, or help, up front. But I clearly couldn't. Call it a mistake on my part -- but where the heck was I supposed to learn, if I hadn't been able to learn it from life already, if not in therapy? It's like I needed a pre-requisite for therapy, before I went into therapy. Does that seem odd to anyone besides me?