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Old Oct 06, 2019, 07:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Scooter9 View Post
Geez! My son had another anaphylactic reaction! This time he wasn't close to a hospital. He had to use his EpiPen.

I don't know what caused it this time, but he's been traveling in Asia.

Also my wife and I argued about my mental health. She accuses me of using my depression as an excuse for "not doing anything". I do allot despite being in the longest depression of my life. I work. Support the family. Pay the bills. I admit I do little around the house. That's because I just don't care and her standards for what it means to do something are redicously high, something no one but her can meet. She makes me feel so bad about what I don't do and she completely overlooks the fact that I'm still functional.

She asked me one day what would happen if I stopped my meds. I said I would fall into a deep depression and probably couldn't get out of bed for weeks. I said I take the meds so that I can provide for the family but she seemed unsympathetic.

Such is life.
I'd written a response and have lost it somehow. Let me try again.

I am sorry your son had had another reaction,. How scary! I am glad he has an epipen and knows when to treat himself. Let's hope he has no further episodes.

I am very sorry your wife has difficulties understanding what you endure on a daily basis.

I have been amazed with all you have continued to do while living with a very stubborn depression.

Any chance of helping her to better understand? Maybe couples counseling? Maybe a NAMI family awareness/educational program? Other?

It helps you so very much to make sure you both understand all you can about one another.

You suffer with this obstinate depression. You don't need any additional suffering. Sometimes, misunderstandings berween partners, especially when comments are made, amplifies the pain and the suffering. If this does add to your pain and suffering, please do tell her so? I don't think she'd be doing anything detrimental to you on purpose. I'd think she'd want to know?

I hope these types of misunderstandings can be cleared up asap. it's important for you each to have one another's love and full support right now.

If you approach her to talk, speak to her from your heart. Doing so, comes across differently. Speaking heart-to-heart is often a highly effective approach to being heard., as well as in finding cooperation in mutually resolving any issues at hand.

However you handle this situation, I wish you both mutual understanding, mutual support and a sense of Peace within your relationship with one another.

Keep the Faith, scooter!
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