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I don't want to change him at all.
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I just think speaking to someone about his triggers, patterns, and responses would be more helpful than coming from me.
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It sounds like you do want him to change, just not by you.
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he is not the best communicator and I don't feel validated when we have conversations. He tends to overpower them and take over, not asking my point of view or my thoughts as often as I would like. He also has an anger issue, with these explosive bursts from very minor events.
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I don’t blame you for wanting this to change!
Imagine what life will be like for a child who gets overpowered in conversations, or faces explosive anger over very minor events. Or over any events at all.
Actually you don’t have to imagine it because I can tell you from my experience. What happens is that the child becomes afraid to say or do anything for fear of setting off the explosive anger. The child lives in fear. Is this how you want your child to be raised? Is this how you yourself want to live?
Divine is right. If you want a child you can arrange that without tying yourself and your child to an overpowering, explosive, angry tinder box.