Omg that’s so scary about your son !!! I hope he can figure out what’s causing it and be able to avoid that food item, I’m sure it’s difficult sorting what is causing what.

I’m sorry your wife isn’t able to understand more fully how you are managing this depression and how it is taking a lot of effort to maintain what your already doing.

If she’s so picky about how’s things are done at home then she should just accept that she should just do it herself and not have any resentment towards you. I know this specific issue is tough for a lot of couples mental illness or not.

Maybe she might benefit from seeing a T herself ??? Or couples counseling? Might help to get things out in the open and see where communication needs dusted off maybe compromises need made so you both will feel better??

Hang in there