No offence taken, I understand what you mean.

No, I have never went on a date with a woman who had autism/Asperger's. At least to my knowledge. Where I live is rather strange--a lot of males are on the spectrum, yet most females are neurotypical. To be honest, disregarding dating altogether, I do not remember ever even meeting a woman on the spectrum in this city. Most of the women whom I meet are very neurotypical--outgoing, extroverted, party-goers, talkative, very confident, etc.

Rather the opposite, the women think that my qualities are very negative. Chess, foreign languages--these hobbies are rather introverted. The women whom I have met generally have had negative reactions, and I have received comments about why I am so "alone" instead of going out and, for example, partying or going to dance events. Most of the women with whom I have went out were from meetups.

My last date when I was a teenager was around 17. After that, I basically shut down on dating. Not until I was 26 did I go on my first date in almost 10 years. The woman was Ecuadorian (due to my interest in languages, I had learnt Spanish to around native level) and very extroverted, and could sense that I was awkward. Especially since I was visibly shaking like someone with a nerve problem. It clearly did not work out.

My second date thereafter was when I was 27, with a Venezuelan woman. Again, very extroverted and very outgoing, very talkative. She could visibly see that I was awkward, again. It was a rather chaotic date, because it was in a bar during the 2016 USA presidential election. We tried to go out again a month later. I made plans with her to go to a restaurant and then to a bar that I often frequent. When we met, I am not sure why, but she suddenly made us change plans and go to a hamburger place. I was visibly shocked and confused about the change in plans. I am not sure if it was a joke to throw me off of my plans since I am a very rigid person, because then she said, «¿Qué, te he sacado de tu sarcófago?» which loosely means, "What, am I taking you out of your cave?" referring to the bar to which we were supposed to go, or perhaps the fact that I am introverted. Maybe because of the Asperger's I was completely confused and distraught the entire night about the change in plans. But she also said, «¿Eres una persona que necesita tenerlo todo cronometrado, verdad?», which loosely means "You are a person that needs everything super-organised, no?" then she started laughing. I was not sure if she was laughing at me or what. But I felt quite insulted that night.

My third date was when I was 28, with a super extroverted woman. I mean super extroverted as in she did public speaking and public presentations in front of over a hundred people, something that would cause me extreme anxiety. Clearly it did not work out, and she suddenly told me that she had graduated university in 1991. So she was close to 50. A bit of an age gap.

My fourth date of my 20s was just over a month ago. Again, very extroverted, very outgoing, talkative and very alert to body language. We went to dinner at a restaurant. I got extremely uncomfortable when we were talking about how we went to the same university in the UK, and then she suddenly started talking about how she missed the birth control options at the chemist Boots. She found out that I was single/virgin. Needless to say, it did not work out.

I would definitely prefer meeting a woman who had a personality and interests similar to mine. But where I am, it seems quite difficult. Like I said, in the past few years during all of the meetups that I have attended, not even once have I met a woman who could probably be on the spectrum. Not even a neurotypical woman who had interests similar to mine.

It might be telling that I also have a big problem making male friends as well, because they have very different interests. People in general here seem to like hiking, clubbing, dancing, rowdy bars, etc. If I mention chess or foreign languages, often I get asked, "But why do you spend time with languages?" or "Chess? Is that like cup-stacking?", or "Are chess people crazy like Bobby Fischer?"