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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967
I had a lovely day yesterday (it’s just turned 12:00 here). Having said that, I am spiraling rapidly despite my efforts to stay upbeat and positive. I’ll call my NP in the morning for an appointment and a med adjustment. Glad I’m catching it early.
An officer from my bible study group apologized for making me feel unwelcome and unwanted and put me back on the active roster. They said they weren’t that kind of group and they hoped I knew that from past experience. I have not replied. I need to think about it.
Warm wishes to all for a peaceful week ahead. 
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Hi Jennifer!
Good for you for being on top of your mood.
Congrats on expressing your dismay to a leader of your study group. I have been very impressed with just how much this group has meant to you for quite awhile now.
It's been my experience that no group, even religious groups, are perfect. If groups are growing, they will have things to learn.
I am sorry it may feel like this group is learning at your expense.
I am guessing this group has moved people into an "inactive status" if the person meets certain, and possibly ill-considered, critera. They may not have realized this would "do harm" to someone who might not be able to make it on a regular basis due to illness and/or disability. I cannot imagine they would intentionally harm anyone in this way.
It's true they probably should have realized something sad and hurtful like this might occur. Their policy appears to have been short-sighted.
I have been around many well-meaning religious, spiritual, philanthropic, community service types of organizations. Their policies/ideas/actions are not always ideal. At any point in their history, they are given opportunities to take advantage of "teaching moments." These opportunities for growth often come about as members (a member) or a situation, brings their mistakes, their short-comings to their attention.
In my experience, this is one of the beauties of people working together as members of a group, or as a service-oriented team. People in the group bring some piece of enlightenment to the group as a whole. If the group is willing to learn from one another, the group grows in a very positive direction.
You have been an important member. You have reaped many benefits and have so enjoyed this group in the past. There has been mutual benefit in the past.
Do you feel this group would intentionally hurt someone/anyone --most importantly, you -- in this way?
You know the group best. You have a good idea as to whether or not you may continue to benefit from involvement in this group?
I absolutely support your personal decision on whatever you see is in your best interest.
The point I have tried to emphasize is the fact that all groups have flaws and short-comings. As members, we can offer opportunities for group growth.
It is likely you have offered this group some enlightenment, some wisdom, whether or not you stay.
I highly respect your willingness to share with the group through the group leader. This took a lot of courage. This also took faith that you'd be okay for having taken this action. It would have been easy to succumb to fear and to have run before offering your wisdom.
You've given your Truth, your wisdom. You have courageously offered a "teaching" team growth opportunity. The group can choose whether or not to use this information to grow.
You are wise to take your time on this issue, You have been hurt. You also have a meaningful history with this group. You might decide to walk a few more miles with them or you may decide to begin a new and different path.
I am so very impressed with your ability to share your experience with the group. I believe there may be healing in having done so.
I think the world of you! You know I do!