Thanks for everyone's input.

I talked to him on Friday hoping that it would ease my anxiety but it really didnt help much.

First off he seemed pissed off when I came home and asked him to talk. I asked him some questions like how long hes been doing it, etc. He said a few years. I asked him if he was depressed. He asked why I care and I said because I do care about him. He told me he was depressed about his nephew who has been having some problems at home. I told him cocaine isn't going to help.

He started to get angry and said that I just jumped ship (because I stayed at my parents for the week) and I should have stood by him like I stand by my brother. I told him we arent talking about my brother right now. I also said the main reason why I left was because he lied for so long. He tried to downplay by saying at least he wasnt injecting himself with anything and I said it doesn't matter and told him my health and legal concerns.

He said he would never do cocaine again and I told him that I have trouble trusting that. I said that I wanted him to go to meetings and wanted to give him drug tests. He seemed really pissed at this but agreed after I told him I'd leave for good.

He had also told me that I control his money and when he hangs out with his friends. I do get mad when he spends a ton of money on scratch tickets, weed, beer etc. Because I work my butt off and pay for most things in the house. I dont control who he hangs out with but dont like when he stays out til 4 am or doesnt come home; is that really wrong of me?

So yesterday I asked him if he was going to stop the coke for him or for me. He said for me. I said that he has to do it for himself for it to work. I asked if it wasnt for me if hed do cocaine and drink the way he has been. He said "yea why not".

Ugh