I don’t know if you have a Therapist but I think working on this in a therapy setting would help you in many levels.

Sure we all need to learn how to love ourselves because I do feel it’s true a relationship will likely fall apart if it’s off balance.

There are some men and women that see someone starving for attention, affection and love as a target unfortunately.

So I think learning in therapy about red flags is very important. You can also learn how to pick up on clues that someone is interested. Also of course is learning what a healthy relationship actually looks like. Trust me it’s not like in romance novels or movies. Relationships take work from day one. It’s like having a garden it needs tended too.

Obviously you have to put yourself out there physically and mentally. Many couples meet through mutual friends, meet ups might be a source of finding someone looking for a relationship also. I met my first husband the old fashioned way in a bar !! lol !!! he was a musician. Then I met my second husband back in the hay day of chat rooms online, it was a group of people from our area.. 17 years together now

Now a days ? There are many dating sites you might try. Yes they cost money but it weeds out a lot of people just wanting a “ hook up only” it’s to me an investment for yourself.

Maybe a life coach could help you navigate into dating and help you determine if there is a healthy relationship starting.

Hundreds of years ago men married women out of duty and to be the “great protector and provider” and for having children to carry on there name. . This just doesn’t happen much in the modern world. There are some men that have “Prince charming syndrome” and want to swoop in and take care of someone, but any I have seen eventually crumble. A relationship needs balance, one can not take take take out of a neediness. Mutual respect love and same goals I feel are needed for a long lasting stable love.

As with anything in life it takes work whether it be physical or mental.

I think you just need an idea where to start and learn how healthy relationship are built.

Don’t give up.. good luck