I have not read this entire thread so I aplogize if this has already been.

You state that helping your inner child is basically a useless idea and it is not helping, you don't have any kids. Have you read your signature lately? You do have an inner child from your past that is hurting and looking for some parent figures. They need comforting. Unfortunately the only one thatvcan do that is you. Your signature states they look for that nurturing in others. It cannot come from others. If so, would you not think it would have happened by now?

Why not try to approach your T ideas with an open mind. This does not mean giving it a half hearted attempt but really putting your heart into it like your life depended on it. Because in reality your future happiness in life does depend on it. I see from your posts that you are hurting. What have you got to lose except years of happiness.

Once I learned that my T cannot FIX me and I can only use his guidance and expertise to teach me how to put in the work needed to fix myself, I finally started to make progress. Did I think some of the things were weird, stupid, too hard to deal with? YES!! But I am also the one now benefitting from all the work I have put in and the new skills are starting to become natural .

BTW I have DID and tes I had to learn to parent my little ones which was very uncomfortable and hard in the beginning because I had no experience with what good parenting was all about. My T still reminds me and helps me with this.