An update.

I did send a simple birthday card, acknowledging she's my sister-in-law but no slushy hypocritical verse or comments about her unacceptable behaviour. I mailed it so there wasn't the usual monetary gift inside. This morning, got a text thanking me for the card.

It's a small step forward. There's still been no apology. The next hurdle is Christmas. Mother and I usually stay there for a couple of days. Given what's happened, I'd rather spend it alone. I will be safer, can do what I like without being criticised.

Now having more rational thoughts about this situation. It's Domestic Abuse Awareness Week in the UK from October 20, so let's see if that resonates with them. Have concluded brother is a dinosaur in so many ways, not just how he's handled this.