I don’t see it as a commitment issue but rather not being with a right partner. I’ve met many people who I wasn’t interested in getting committed to because they weren’t right people for me. It’s not because I have commitment issue. It’s because I didn’t want to commit to wrong people.

I also don’t see you wanting perfection but rather wanting healthy relationship, which this doesn’t sound like one to me. Also if you wanted perfection, no way you’d stay 5 years with a man who is very far from perfection. You’d be long gone looking for a better match. What does your therapist say about all this?

I am sorry to hear about miscarriage but I find it interesting that you don’t know if you want to stay together and he didn’t propose and you had a lot of issues with him but you planned to have a child with him. What prompted that?