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Originally Posted by Pookyl
Doing ok I think.
My daughter has just broken up with her bf. She cheated on him whilst drunk. I don’t know how to handle or respond to this situation. She seems to not get that cheating is not ok. I don’t get it - we’ve raised her to behave better. Hopefully I can stay stable dealing with my daughter’s issues. I always feel like I’m responsible whenever my children do the wrong thing.
After 4 sessions with my new T I’ve decided to ‘divorce’ her. So far I’ve spent part of each session in the bathroom a nervous wreck. T’s big on doing historic ‘archeological digs’ which I’m really uncomfortable with. My childhood is my childhood and I can’t change it. She told me in the 4th session that my anxiety stems from my early childhood which I spent sick and in hospitals. Given that I actually told her that same thing in the first 5min in the first session it’s frustrating. In 4 sessions she has given me no new tools to manage my anxiety or any strategies to prevent triggering anxiety. If anything, I’m more anxious. Thus the ‘divorce’.
I’ll give self therapy a go. “Physician heal thyself” and all that. I’ve decided to take myself through a book “change your thinking” by Sarah Edelman. It’s a book with lots of CBT strategies. Maybe if I can reframe some things I’ll be less anxious.
Hope everyone is having a good day. Hugs to those who need them.
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I’m sorry about your daughters life choices... some people need to lose someone important to finally understand loyalty. Hope she can figure it out. No ! This is not any fault on your raising her.
I saw a T once, I gave it 5 sessions and ended, he was useless, actually offered me any advice , it’s odd he’s being the conversation towards his own struggle with depression .. ummm okay.
I think using available work books on your our own can be very beneficial. Good for you being proactive