((((muffy)))))

I know so well what you are going thru. I know the guilt, the frustration, the anxiety....and ugh, the exhaustion. I am the fixer, the rescuer or whatever you want to call it in my family as well. I too, have had to learn to set boundaries, not just for others, but for myself.

You are right in your title, it is over and over. It's a cycle, a pattern of behavior. I know it is hard. It is painful to see ones we love suffer (even when we know it's their own fault). It took me years to see what was happening to me and the effects on my family (marriage, my son) because I was allowing others to dump their lives in my lap when things went wrong.

Sabby's advice here is wonderful! It is exactly what my T had to teach me to do. And it's not easy always to follow thru with. But it will get easier. In the end, you and your sister will both be better off because of it.

PM me anytime you like. I know what it's like. I've been there. And somedays, I'm still there.

recluse1