I just got off a 8 min phone call with my mother. My father was shouting in the background for most of the entire thing. With a lot of swearing at my mother. He was called by the tax office and needs to pay around £1000 back.

Over payments and under payments happen all the time, so I don't think it's a big deal. I can pay it off directly for him when they send him written confirmation of the amount- but what just got me is how bloody scary his stupid rants would have been to a child to witness. I'm not even there but I did feel huge waves of anxiety.

I've actually lost count of the number of times the police were called to the house.

I can't ever imagine you losing your cool like that. I don't think you would ever beat and degrade your wife like that. Your house actually feels like a home.