Hi, Kaika ~ I totally empathize with your situation, except in our case my 14 year old daughter was in your shoes and my husband was/is the stepdad (though, he's the only dad she's known and has helped me raise her since she was 1 and 1/2 yrs. old). When I married my husband, I was a single Mom of 3 - he had no children. We had 4 children together within the first 4 years of our marriage, giving us a grand total of 7. However, the first 9 years of our marriage, my husband criticized, lectured, punished, scrutinized, etc. my daughters every move. Nothing was ever good enough His first words in the morning to her would be, "Did you make your bed yet?" However, with his 4 biological kids it was different. His first words to them were always, "How are my babies? How are my pretty girls? How are Daddy's boys this morning?", etc. It was a very frustrating, painful journey for my daughter and I. I wouldn't divorce him over it and believed that God would change his heart eventually. I, as a Mother, made a lot of mistakes during that time, mostly out of hurt and desperation for change. About 6 years ago, I began to talk to her about how to deal with people with "difficult personalities". I decided to use this relationship between her and my husband as a sort of "platform" learning tool, knowing that in life we all encounter people with difficulty personalities and can't always just walk away from that situation as quickly as we may like to. I took a spiritual approach with her and one of the things I did with her was this exercise: For every time he said or did something that hurt her or I, we wrote it down on a small piece of paper. Then we presented it to the Lord, telling Him how it hurt us but we ask for forgiveness on his behalf and we offer forgiveness to him for it. Then, we tore up the piece of paper as an act of releasing him from the offense of it. For every time he said or did something that blessed us or was kind, we wrote it in a journal and presented it to the Lord, telling Him how much it blessed us and asked the Lord to bless him for it. We truly had to resort to this because during that time my husband was so closed to us confronting him about it, although he admitted what he was doing was wrong. Well, 3 years ago for Fathers Day, we presented that journal to him and, Kaika, something in him switched on that day. He broke down and cried like a baby, apologizing all over himself for how he treated her and found it hard to believe that she had so many wonderful things to say about him in this journal. It was a long journey. Part of his issue was he was physically, verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused by HIS stepdad. It took years for him to forgive his stepdad and himself. But change did come. I believe it will come for you as well. It will only be for a season.