We had twins in Dec 2016 and we went thru alot with the boys in the NICU...soon after we got home I started working from home taking care of twin new borns. I wasnt intimate with my husband because of the weight gain and stress.....A year ago I found out my husband was talking to another woman. There were sexual pics sent but nothing physical that I know about. After, I found out they continued speaking for awhile (my husbands answer was "I didn't give a ****") and over the course of 6 months I would find things out that wouold break me apart. It was rocky but I started losing weight and trying to be better for our marriage. Since Aug 2019 I have really been trying to be happy, healthy and move on with our life together. Things were going great between us.

We recently started becoming friendly with this woman and her daughter (17yrs old) that he used to work with for 12yrs. The past month and half my husband has been texting with her 17 yr old. When I first noticed he said it was because she doesn't have a father figure in her life and he wanted to be there for her. I haven't been ok with it from the beginning but he likes to help people. My husband has two girls from a previous marriage and our twin 3 yr old. He doesn't have a relationship with one of his girls and the other isn't great. He now texts this girl all throughout the day and night. He was texting her at nite in bed with me at 9:30pm and I got upset...He knows I do not like it and now has been limiting when he does it at home. What really got me against this was one nite he met her at a wawa so she could get gas and he never told me, I gave him the opportunity to but never did....I only knew because her mother mentioned it to me.

Is this OK? He is makes me feel horrible when I get upset about it and says I need to stop the ******** and get over being insecure. I do not think it is anything sexual just totally inappropriate and crossing lines.