It's cliche, but how can you love someone if you don't love yourself? This is where I'm at right now .

Do you love yourself? Are you comfortable expressing yourself ? Are you secure enough to know what you want and what you're expecting in return without selling out your happiness just to be in a relationship?

I've been in a relationship for a long time that probably should have never made it this long. We both brought our baggage in and settled for mediocrity. You bring yourself with you wherever you go.

We like to say a relationship is 50-50 but sometimes it needs to be 60/40 or 70/30 but it should all even out most of the time. Take it from someone who has compromised and watched their partner compromise happiness for the sake of " being in a relationship, " it can make you more unfulfilled.

My wife and I could split tomorrow and I know I would have no desire to jump into another relationship because I am not where I need to be . I am growing but it would not be fair to a new partner to bring my insecure self to start this process over again.

Seahound