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Old Mar 31, 2008, 02:16 PM
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Oh, this is going to be long. But #1 - I need to vent. #2 - I need to know if some type of anxiety medication may help me to chill out about this stuff, it just seems like I"m always soooo tired, and stressed and quite frankly always P.O.'d.

First, for those who don't know, I had my last drink 01/26/08 and I am still happily sober. I know that I have used drinking to cope with the following and I don't have any desire to use it as a crutch again. However, I'd like a little help maybe.....or to know if I'm just overreacting.

#1 - My mom.....on top of feeling like the world owes her something (and this is no joke) has a rare disorder that causes leaking in her retina (I think?) and it is causing her to loose her central vision. The injections cost $750.00 every 10 weeks to stop the bleeding and save as much vision as possible. We've started donation jars but now, it has all of a sudden become my responsibility to handle all the money, finances, etc. And my EX boyfriend is selling cakes for her down at his store. Which throws in an interesting thing of obligation. I also do the ex's books which rarely becomes a problem. I go to the store, get the paperwork and the laptop take it home and return it the next day. That simple. ON top of this my mother makes me feel like everytime I take a day off work or do something for myself that I'm being selfish. She lives in a 25 year old mobile home and mine is a 2000. While I was in Texas visiting my dad's side of the family, she let my brother take my $3500 four wheeler and total it. She claimed she was going to get the neighbor to pay half since it was actually HIS son that was driving it. She never followed through with anything and now I have the wrecked $3500.00 four wheeler in my yard.

Now the next situation. My ex has a store in the small town we live in. He hired a friend of his that is female to be his delivery driver. I tried to express that this was a bad idea but, lets just say, that I was not "around" when all of this took place. NOW, the girl has stolen from him. And she's always broke and asking him to borrow money or get advances on her check. It's every single week. She took a $50.00 bill to buy them lunch one day and never returned the change. Now she took the company credit card and withdrew $30.00 cash from it without permission. He won't stand up to her. And I refuse to clean up the books due to her mess and trying to figure out taking money out and putting it back in for no reason. Also the cash drawer is $60.00 short. He gripes because he says he asks her to do things and she never does them. But, then he never stands up to her about any of this. It just drives me nuts because I can't understand how someone can just let someone run all over them! And when I ask him WHY he just says, "I guess I'm just a nice guy." After all her theft of company time, not doing what she is told, and asking for advance after advance, he GAVE her the company credit card to put $40.00 in gas in her car. HOW IS IT THE COMPANY'S PROBLEM THAT SHE HAS POOR MONEY MANAGEMENT?

It just stresses me out and I don't know HOW to let it go. I think awwwwww, don't worry about the 4 wheeler ........it's just a 4 wheeler. But, then I think my bejezus, that was my hard earned money and now look at it. And my mom did not follow up out of laziness, or the social anxiety that I think she suffers from. But why should I have to pay for it. The damage is nearly as much as the 4 wheeler's worth. And why should I DEAL WITH IT when SHE was the one who let it happen? I was 916 miles away when it happened. Oh yeah, and when I got back she tried to push it off on my boyfriend to fix - would you believe that?

And then I think I can let the business things go with this girl but then it angers me because at the end of the day I am the one who has to account for the money. She does nothing and makes my job harder and his too and he won't stand up to her! WHAT IS UP WITH THAT? I'm getting ready to just dump it in his lap and say he can do his own books if he wants to keep people like that. She's been there a month and has stolen. IT is only going to get worse and I have to figure out how to account for it?
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