I have no problem speaking up in T. None.. or any Doctors , disability people, anything , I’m direct and firm.

I do with my husband at times, only because I hate confrontation. Due to the trauma of his first marriage , yes he was being very abused. In the past he would become defensive right off the bat. Just a default reaction.

I recently needed to have a serious talk about some stuff. So I spent over a week I think , mentally rehearsing “ if I say this ? Will he say that ? Etc etc etc. I found the right time and began with ... We need to talk and I don’t want to argue or fight ( the last argument we had was 9 years ago ) and I didn’t want him to feel the need to be defensive. The talk went better than expected.

I know a lot of people struggle with being able to speak up. I think it’s one of the top skills to learn in T