I am sorry for all that have experienced trauma--yes, traumatic events play a number on our memories--in some of the minor traumas I have experienced, I compartmentalized it then when the memory was triggered I went back over it so many times that I started doubting what did and did not happen. I know that the initial fragmented memory was correct but in my desperate desire to fill in the rest--I would wonder how much of what I filled in trying to understand why and what happened was real. For me, it has just worked out best to talk about trauma for a while (so I can understand it so that I can hopefully be less likely to let it effect other relationships) then sort of recompartmentalize it again. I hope that talk isn't too triggering.

So many good things to read in your post. I will probably reread tomorrow morning but as far as leadership goes my personal opinion is good leaders take care of the people who work for them and have good character.