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Originally Posted by TunedOut
I am sorry for all that have experienced trauma--yes, traumatic events play a number on our memories--in some of the minor traumas I have experienced, I compartmentalized it then when the memory was triggered I went back over it so many times that I started doubting what did and did not happen. I know that the initial fragmented memory was correct but in my desperate desire to fill in the rest--I would wonder how much of what I filled in trying to understand why and what happened was real. For me, it has just worked out best to talk about trauma for a while (so I can understand it so that I can hopefully be less likely to let it effect other relationships) then sort of recompartmentalize it again. I hope that talk isn't too triggering.  
So many good things to read in your post.  I will probably reread tomorrow morning but as far as leadership goes my personal opinion is good leaders take care of the people who work for them and have good character. |
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TunedOut
No worries about waiting tomorrow to re-read and reply. I am patient and completely understand and respect people's schedules. I'm disabled, so I tend to reply right away right now because I have no obligations (yet).
What you said didn't trigger me. And if you feel like sharing more, don't worry about it triggering me or not. I almost always read the triggering content anyway; online, it's easier than in real life, so I have an easier time with reading triggering content (the kind that goes into detail).
I'm sorry that your trauma was so painful that you compartmentalized it into fragments, too. I suppose that's the similarities between PTSD and DID - the fragments, the loss of memory, the trying to fill in the gaps. I like your idea of recompartmentalizing. It's almost like the pacing and containing technique I learned from a good civilian therapist a long, long time ago.
I also like your very succinct/parsimonious explanation about leadership. We definitely need more of that in general!