Sorry.


I wasn't aware "enmeshment" was a thing. Just googled it. Learn something new every day. Anyway, the website said of it: "This often happens on an emotional level in which two people 'feel' each other’s emotions, or when one person becomes emotionally escalated and the other family member does as well."

This is something Colin does a lot, and not just with Sara or Lilly, but anyone he gets close to, although it's much more apparent in his romantic relationships. I wonder if he simply has a problem with emotional boundaries in general. I also wonder if he likes hanging out with me because I don't have many emotions for him to be affected by.


"Hell is other people" is a reference to Sartre's No Exit, and yeah, it is basically about people tormenting each other with lies and emotional manipulation. More specifically, it's about those who rely on others to define them because they don't want to take responsibility for their own actions.

Of course, Garcin, Estelle, and Inez were all terrible people specifically chosen to torment each other. When each looks to one of the others for validation, the other two respond with lies and manipulation tactics. Even when they try to be honest, the one asking for validation doesn't trust the motives of their comrades anyway, so they end up being suspicious of any validation that is given. I wonder what would happen if you were one of the characters in Sartre's play who was looking for validation, but you happened upon someone who gave you all the emotional support you needed.

I suppose Sartre would say that you're still lying to yourself, so it's a moot point.


There certainly are.


Yeah, I think that sums it up really well.


He isn't quite that bad, but he does seem a bit immature for a 31-year-old. Not that I have room to talk, but at least I know that I lack the emotional capacity to be in a healthy relationship.