I think that a possible dating partner should prove him/herself through consistent interest, kindness, and affection over time.

Judging by what you have said, you haven’t seen that from him so far.

I don’t know whether he is trying to exploit selfish opportunity. I just think that a person (you ) should keep their emotional distance from someone unless and until they demonstrate consistent interest, kindness, and affection over time. Don’t commit to him unless and until he commits to you.