Hi Kayeli—
Unfortunately Christina’s right and SarahSweets has the plan: What you wrote sounds like you are being abused:
Cutting you off from family and friends (if it’s only him talking to you he can manipulate you more easily)
Using rage and threats to control you (does he listen and communicate or does he use language to hurt you and make you feel bad?)
Physically assaulting you (it will get worse, and would a true partner in life hurt you agsin and again?)
Sexually assaulting you (using intimidation and threats for his—not your—gratification is not the act of a loving, caring partner?)

It took a while for me to realize that my wife didn’t want a partnership: she just needed to control me and manipulate me into being and doing what she needed. She’s not evil, she’s just dysfunctional and could never be a partner who loved and cared for me—and she was just getting more and more violent toward me and her stepdaughter. At some point (summer 2016) I realized I had to start giving up the dreams of what our life together could have been because that could never happen, and start over. And I’ve started over; I took my younger daughter (summer 2017–yeah it took a while!) and we left, and life has been so much better since we did.

I hope you can sort out the difference between the things that you can change, the things you can’t, and see through the confusion created by all the bad feelings to get to a place and time where you snd your children can learn to be free again.