Hi birdiegirl,

I think it's good that you know that you need a coping strategy for when your father passes away. And I'm so so sorry that you have to deal with this right now. When my mother passes away I will be a wreck. I can relate to your feelings because I think that I would really struggle too if all the responsibilities of the funeral were put on me for my mother. It makes sense to me that you are anxious about this. I think a lot of people would be anxious about something like that. Back to the coping strategy, I'm not entirely sure I know the right words to tell you. But I suppose that if it were me, I would have a coping strategy as well. Things I would consider doing would be looking at it as my own personal challenge. Maybe seeing myself as the character the main character in a book and this is her Adventure. I think also being able to lean on other people can help. As well as taking time for you. Do things to reward yourself, and comfort yourself. Do things you like in between those difficult things you have to get done. Again I'm so sorry about your father.

In terms of your job, I think that 20-somethings are weird, truly, LOL. It is an age of immaturity. If the doctors tell you that you are doing a good job, believe them. You don't have to be friends with the people who make you feel uncomfortable. Maybe making friends outside of work might help that is if that is something you struggle with. I don't want to assume. I'm sorry that your coworkers are causing you to lose confidence and I'm sorry that they are snippy. That would make me uncomfortable as well. Did you have confidence before? What is the difference between then and now?