@lillib First of all thank you very much for taking your time to respond me your response is very helpful since I didn't even know where to start with this
Yes, I try not to touch this issue all the time, after all we share a lot of interests and get caught up talking about them, we also collaborate on creative stuff like writing and drawing, but at the same time I don't want this to take over the conversation since she could be avoiding her problems again.
I think I will now try to only send a message a day at a time I know that she might be able to get a notification so that I don't overwhelm her, last time she ghosted me I think I forced her to come back and maybe she needed more time