A snippet, talking about something my attorney said about divorce turning people into their worst selves (paraphrased as always).

Me: I don't want this to change who I am. I actually think this whole thing has forced me to constantly choose to be my best self because there's no grey area, no middle ground. I'm either going to be my best self or my worst.

T: At the end of the day, you have to be the one looking at yourself in the mirror and asking, Was I my best self? Did I make the most honorable choices I could? Was I true to who I am?

Me: And sometimes the question is just, Was I not-an-a**hole? Some days, that's a win.