You know a few other people have posted things to this effect.

One theory (that I like quite well) is that external events really aren't as significant as ones experiences. And there can be a lot of experiential trauma quite independently of external events. Telling oneself that `it is all of my own making' can be quite experientially traumatic, for example. Though often we don't come up with those little phrases all by ourself, often we acquired them from some place (whether it be from TV or from ones parents or from ones friends or whatever). Doesn't really matter where we got them from in a way.

Some people live through events that most of us could never cope with - and they seem to cope with them and recover from them quite well. Other people are affected by them a great deal. Part of it can be about the quality of emotional intimacy that we experience with others. Thats the biggest thing that makes people resilient to stuff. A lot of people in the world don't have that quality of emotional connection (which of course takes two people) and so they are fairly vulnerable to emotional dysregulation (which is experienced as traumatic).

I guess I just mean to say that one need not have been sexually abused or physically abused or verbally abused or have suffered through natural disaster in order to have traumatic experiences. There is some controversy... But I personally think (and some theorists agree) that trauma should be located at the level of experience rather than at the level of external events. So... Hang in there. And try not to give yourself a hard time. Tends not to help