Sounds like you've got a lot of crappy situations that are completely outside of your control.

That totally sucks about your 4 wheeler yes it's just a 4 wheeler, but it's your 4 wheeler. It might be a pain since your Mother isn't following up, but can you go after the neighbour for some of the money.

As for you ex-bf and his problem employee, I hate to say it but this is the time to take a live and let live approach to the problem. If he's willing to be taken advantage of you can't change that. As for cleaning up the books, set her up as an accounts recievable and keep track of the money she's taken, borrowed whatever. At some point it will be his choice to either collect or write it off as bad debt, but you'll have done your job of looking after the books and keeping him informed.

And don't let anyone make you feel guilty for taking time out for yourself. We all need a break once in a while for the sake of our own sanity,, so you should feel to take as much me time as you need.

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