SoSorry,

I think what you need to hear is that it's ok to beak off the relationship with her even if you have a love for her.

I love horses and have taught young children how to ride. Before these children learn about riding and get to experience/feel what different horses feel like, they have no idea what kind of horse will be a good fit for them or even that all horses are different. I have hopped on other people's horses and did not like the way the horse felt and how it was to ride at all. Yet, the other person was happy with it and enjoyed riding it. Had I not ridden other horses that I liked, I very well could have gotten on that one horse and thought that is what all horses felt like to ride. I have even seen horses I thought were very pretty too, yet did not feel the same way once I sat on them and rode them. Yet, I still do love horses and think they are amazing.

Everything you shared is showing that this partner is simply NOT the right fit for you when it comes to having a relationship that is more than just that of a friend. From what you have shared this other young woman prefers to have a partner that pretty much does everything FOR her. That is not what YOU want to experience in a relationship. So, you can still try to be friends with her, but, that is all when it comes to her, nothing wrong with that. You will need to be the one to initiate a break up as well, because she is the kind that needs the other person to do that for her as well.

Also, when it comes to horses this saying is true "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink". Well, the same is true for people.

Time to find someone different to have a deeper relationship with.