Hi! I'm 21, and a girl. Here's my 2 cents.

You believe women find you "undatable and unattractive". Let's start with that. Everyone can be attractive in someones eyes--I know that sounds cheesy, but it's true. Make sure you're putting your best foot forward when you go on dates so that you feel confident. Get that haircut you've been putting off. Make sure your hygiene is good. Dress in clothes that make you feel and look good. Everyone can improve their attractiveness by making sure they're clean and well kept. If you're already doing this, good. Keep this in mind: nobody KNOWS you're a virgin. They can't judge you on that because they don't know. You don't have to tell anyone about your past sex life--it's none of their business.

Use meetup, tinder, bumble, and other dating apps to increase your probability of finding someone.

There's nothing inherently wrong with being a virgin at 30, but I understand the stigma and shame it could cause. But think about this: are you really going to be any different after having sex with a person? I mean, sex can be great and formative and yadda yadda, but really, I've had some very unremarkable sex that left me thinking "what was the point in that?" Lol. It's not going to make you a different person--what you have to offer now is good enough. Go into dates with that confidence of knowing that you're already enough.