If it feels disrespectful and icky, its because it is. Trust yourself.

I wonder the same thing. I've gotten a lot if weird messages on the free dating sites. Sexual in nature. And even abusive messages. I think we live in different times, but I also think free dating sites bring this out in other people. I'm a female, so I really can't speak from a man's perspective. I just know that I've experienced a lot of bizarre creepy behavior from Men on free dating sites. All of that being said, it seems that you are experiencing this from men you meet in real life. I wouldn't blame yourself. I mean self-reflection is good. And it's good to take responsibility for our own actions and behaviors. So I really can't say and I really don't know. Maybe some guys would be able to weigh in. I do think these are different times. Which is so unfortunate. But I do know that there are good men out there as well. And maybe you can set some boundaries. What did you do when the guy sent you that naked picture? Did you tell him that was not okay? If you put up with behavior it will just keep happening. Doesn't make the behavior okay. Anyway I'm sorry this is happening for you and it sounds really frustrating. I'm also wondering what the quality of men you are spending time with. Though it seems that they catch you off-guard and you are surprised that they are acting like this. So maybe it's not that.