Hello,

As a guy I would never consider sending a random nude to someone I just met, so that to me is a red flag and you probably made the right decision saying, "we're after two different things." If he was after more than sex he wouldn't have sent the nude... he was testing your reaction to see where you were on that front.

I have heard similar stories of getting unwanted nudes from many of my women friends unfortunately. So you're definitely not alone. I feel like I need to make a PSA on it for us men, but it doesn't seem like it should be necessary, like it's common sense.

I would also suggest it's possible these men have their sense of self worth tied into sex. Maybe the man sending the pic was looking for some kind of validation from you in addition to testing waters. Long story short, don't settle if you feel uncomfortable. Plenty of great men out there!