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Originally Posted by Twitch99
I have heard of people talk of coping skills but I honestly have no idea what that would be like for me. No one has ever taken the time to teach me that. Everywhere I have I have always been treated like "You've been here before you know the drill." When in fact no I don't know the drill. One reason I choose this IOP was because they said they were going to teach me coping skills. They never did. All they would do is address problems then that's that. "OK now that I recognize that's a problem how do I fix it?"
So I guess a good treatment would be 2 fold. 1 have someone actually listen to what what I'm saying. I want to be honest and say yeah I'm feeling suicidal and I want to die but I'm not going to follow through. And not have them freak out.
Then 2 teach me how to deal with this. Don't expect I know what to do because I don't. If I knew what to do then I wouldn't be here.
Yes I have dealt with this most of my life but no one has ever shown me how to. So I've just kept it bottled up and on bad days I just shut down. If that's what you do then I guess I'm good and don't need any help.
3rd one I just thought of ties back into the 1st one. I don't want you to care about my phyisical state I just want you to focus on my me tap state. I know it's hard to separate the 2, but if I tell you I'm feeling suicidal don't worry because of that help me figure why and how to stop it.
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Twitch99
That is so sad no one taught you coping skills.
Here are some skills that have helped me when feeling down or sui.
I would use a form of CBT that got me to list the triggering events that preceded sui, the emotions I felt after experiencing the events, the thoughts that occurred with the emotions that stemmed from triggering events, the negative consequences if I attempted or ruminated about sui, the alternative and good coping skills to replace sui like talking on PC online group, talking with supportive friends, distracting from the emotion by putting on a favorite show or finding something you enjoy, saying affirmations (good things) about yourself, taking a nap, journaling. You will also write a list that challenges your thoughts and emotions, such as if your thought is, "I feel hopeless," then your emotion is "I am sad and depressed," then your challenge is "I will get through this; this is not my fault; I am not hopeless; people love and support me; I can ask for my needs like some praise when I feel I am only receiving judgment; I can identify my triggers and use boundaries to ensure my safety from those triggers; I can find something to focus on that is pleasing or comforting for me until I speak with my therapist regarding these issues "
I am on my cell, so I am not explaining all these that well, but I wanted to demonstrate a little of what one form of coping looks like. There are many others too.
I will rewrite this, but would you like to try this online here with us? We can help you with some things we learned.