I think that many people would be badly hurt if fourteen people said they would come and only four showed up. I certainly would find that hard to take.

Something similar happened with my daughter. A new girl in elementary school had a birthday in early September. She invited all of the girls in the class to her party. Only my daughter showed up!

This of course was hard for the new girl BUT she and my daughter had a good time anyways and became fast friends, which they still are to this day.

Perhaps the moral of this story is that your daughter’s real/best friends are those who came, and these are the friends she should particularly cultivate?