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Originally Posted by Ember_42
Sorry for taking so l long to answer. I wasn't ignoring you, I'm just not on here very often. 
So, demi-sexual means that I need a romantic connection to someone to want to have any kind of sexual interaction with them. I'm attracted to people, even lust after them, but I don't actually want to do anything about it unless I feel connected to them on a more than physical level. But I also have social issues and don't like to be casually touched (like at all) by anyone I don't feel an emotional connection with, even if it's platonic.
Gender-fluid means that my identity isn't static. I identify as different things at different times. Sometimes one particular label lasts for months, sometimes it can change after only a day or so. Sometimes there will be a specific trigger, other times it just happens. |
Does having multiple personalities count for being gender-fluid? I have male parts, too. I used to say a long, long time ago that I wish I was just regarded as human and not a gender at all. In many ways, I still feel that way, but there are days that I am okay with being feminine, and more recently, being more masculine (no cosmetics, etc.). I just don't like all the pain that comes with the feminine.
Demi-sexual makes complete sense. If I were healthy and wanted a romantic relationship, I'd be demi-sexual, I think. I never liked having sex without being in a relationship; I tried when I would go out on a few dates with someone many moons ago, but it just didn't feel the same as actually being close and connected. I'm more asexual than anything else these days. But if I could go back, I'd be demi-sexual only.
Thank you so much for explaining! Oh, and no worries about taking your time to respond. I understand people get busy, etc.