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Originally Posted by Bill3
I think that many people would be badly hurt if fourteen people said they would come and only four showed up. I certainly would find that hard to take.
Something similar happened with my daughter. A new girl in elementary school had a birthday in early September. She invited all of the girls in the class to her party. Only my daughter showed up!
This of course was hard for the new girl BUT she and my daughter had a good time anyways and became fast friends, which they still are to this day.
Perhaps the moral of this story is that your daughter’s real/best friends are those who came, and these are the friends she should particularly cultivate?
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When people don't show up like that, I think it's because they've forgotten about the planned event. What you describe about your daughter's birthday happened when I was eleven. I got a phone call from this other girl's mother about not being at her birthday party. I told her I had forgotten and that I would be right over. I expected to arrive to a party of 10 girls. I was the only one who showed up. Then that girl and I became best friends. I had literally forgotten about the party. I think that happens a lot. OR when the time arrives, people have gotten wrapped up in something else and choose to not go to your event. Either way, I don't think it's a true reflection of your own self worth. Although you are right, it's reflection of who your true friends are. I'm still waiting to have a true friend in life that is not my husband. Life is imperfect, but there is still much in the world.