What does your therapist say about the marriage? I'm not sure if you want to work for it or not. I think if you do, you have to let go of some of your own bitterness and work on helping him, see what is there and if the marriage can be saved. You say you don't feel loved, does your husband feel loved? You can't change what he does, only what you do. I would work on that for a bit and see if things appear to get any better.