Thank you @Bill3 @MickeyCheeky and @TishaBuv ! I felt much better after "putting it on paper" so to speak. And yes Tisha, I answered my own question in my OP It turned out to be more of a reflection but thank you for listening everyone, and thank you for your support. MickeyCheeky, thank you as always for your wisdom! I like the idea of fighting meanness back with kindness and love! That's HARD! but not impossible